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drowningfish:

m-altruism:

Sometimes in our relentless effort to find the person we love, we fail to recognize and appreciate the people who love us.  We miss out on so many beautiful things simply because we allow ourselves to be enslaved by our own selfish concerns.

Go for the man/woman of deeds and not for the man/woman of words, for you will find rewarding happiness, not with the man/woman you love but with the man/woman who loves you more.

The best lovers are those capable of loving from a distance far enough to allow the person to grow but never too far to feel the love within your being.

To let go of someone doesn’t mean you have to stop loving; it only means that you allow that person to find his/her own happiness without expecting him/her to come back.  Letting go is not just setting the other person free, but is also setting yourself free from all the bitterness, hatred, and anger that you keep in your heart.  Do not let the bitterness take away your strength and weaken your faith, and never allow pain to dishearten you; but rather let yourself grow with wisdom in bearing it.

You may find peace in loving someone from a distance not expecting something in return.  But be careful, for this can sustain life but can never give enough room for us to grow.  We can all survive with just beautiful memories of the past, but real peace and happiness come only with open acceptance of what reality is today.

There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves so intensely attracted to that person.  This feeling soon becomes a part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions.  The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than just a friendship.  We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer, but in the end our efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves.  You don’t have to forget someone you love.  What you need to learn is how to accept the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself.  Believe me, you would be better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving.

Don’t let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself.  Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well.

Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow.  If you lose love, that doesn’t mean you failed in love.

Cry if you have to, but make sure that tears wash away the hurt and the bitterness that the past has left with you.  Let go of yesterday and love will find its way back to you.  And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

There are two ways to live your life: One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.

There is no mistake so painful that love cannot forgive, no past so bitter that love cannot accept, and no love so little that we cannot start all over with.

Galing kay Bradley

(Kung hindi mo gets if you were rejected, this MAY help… — emphasis on “MAY”, because I’m not sure).

Life is about change. As much as you’d like to maintain a veil of secrecy around your heart, it often becomes impossibly difficult. One way or another, your Adored One may eventually become privy to your torment. This is the crucial point in the story, the moment that your entire life has been building up to. What will happen next?

There are three broad categories into which nearly all reactions can be pigeonholed: A) No changes. B) Adored One withdraws. C) Adored One is supportive, but does not share your feelings. Let’s take a slightly closer look at these possibilities:

No change: Basically, this means that after finding out you are in love with them, your Adored One does not behave any differently. Depending on why, exactly, this might be good or bad.

* It could mean that they are okay with being loved by you as long as you don’t expect them to reciprocate. This can be very liberating, as it allows you to shed many of your burdens and unabashedly revel in the elation of knowing them. All this without any worries about where things are going.

* It could also mean that they are terrified and in a state of denial or mock-denial. This isn’t what we’re hoping for. If they acutely refuse to discuss the matter at all, or seem to be under the impression that your twenty-page confession was just a dream brought on by spoiled cheese, then you may as well move on to the dénouement. It’s just going to get worse from here.

Withdrawal: Probably the most common reaction, unfortunately. Upon learning that you are interested in them — whether by admission, rumor, or their own perceptiveness — they begin giving you the cold shoulder. It could be subtle or completely in-your-face. What leads them to behave thusly? Some possibilities:

* When one does not know what to do, a common fallback is to do nothing. So, basically, by seeing their inner light you have placed them at a disadvantage. Confused and uncertain, they have become uncomfortable with the situation and choose to back away. The resultant emptiness that gnaws at your sanity simply lies outside of their calculations; it is not a malicious act.

* Their life is complicated enough without having a new admirer, leading them to attempt to cut any further development short by breaking off contact. It’s the only simple measure at their disposal.

* Demonic possession. Call a priest immediately.

* Your Adored One is not actively trying to hurt you, but doing what they think is in your best interest. By making themselves distant, your affections for them may lessen and eventually lead to a more stable situation, at which time the friendship can resume largely undamaged.

Support. Short of having your Adored One admit that they share your feelings, this is about the best things can get. Making it clear that they do not want a relationship, they may nonetheless offer genuine and open sympathy for your heartache.

If you don’t know what’s going on, and would like to, my best advice is to ask. If the Adored One doesn’t like discussing it, you may be out of luck, but often the easiest way to figure out what somebody is thinking is to have them tell you.

Seriously, the surest way to figure out if someone likes you (as in “like-like” and not “like” na crush material/papa-ble/hot mama ka lang) is to hear him/her say it.

I swear I’ll be good. I’ve been good. BUT the next person to break my heart will have something of his broken too… mwaaaahahahaha!!! ;) T*ngNa sa inyong mga paasa! Kala nyo kayo lang?! ulol!